Question:

How do we tell guests we prefer cash?

After many years of living together, many couples say they prefer to receive cash as a wedding gift, since the majority of wedding gifts will probably comprise of items they already own. How do you politely inform your guests that cash is easier for you? How do you respectfully ask for this without offending your guests?

Telling people about your preference straight up is typically considered rude and tacky. While it may be tempting, do not to indicate this preference in the wedding invitation. To do so makes the gift seem like an obligation to your guests. If you are having a bridal shower, it can be mentioned in the shower invitation that a monetary gift is preferred. Another great way to let wedding guests know is through your network of close family and friends and the wedding party. When asked, they can simply say, "The couple already has everything they need since they've been together for so long. A monetary gift would be most appreciated." Remember, if you’re not asked, don’t tell.

Expect that some guests may still prefer to give a wedding gift of their choice. Accept all wedding gifts graciously since it is still up to the guest to decide what he/she would like to give.