Question:

What do I do if my fiancé and I have different music tastes?

Whether you choose a live band, a string quartet, a DJ or even do it yourself with an mp3 player, your music choices will set the mood and the pace for your wedding day. Wedding songs are one of the elements of the wedding day remembered most by guests, so be sure to put your own twist on the day through the choice of music you like for both the wedding ceremony and reception.

The music you choose for your wedding will help create the right atmosphere for your big day. It is important that you take the time to choose music that best reflects your feelings, your personality and the theme of the wedding you want to create.

Here are some things you might want to consider when choosing wedding songs:

  • Remember that you will need to select music for the wedding ceremony, the cocktail hour or pre-reception drinks party and the reception.
  • If your wedding has a particular theme (such as medieval, beach, or Italian), you must choose matching music
  • If you are choosing music for your first dance, think carefully about your choice. Have a look at the lyrics for the song, and practice dancing to the beat with your honey to ensure that the pace is not too slow or fast for both of you. Beware of choosing songs which a re trendy or popular at the time. Its much more important to choose a song that is meaningful to you and your partner.
  • Because you ant your guests to feel relaxed and to enjoy themselves, you might want to find a way to include them in your wedding day. Consider choosing a particular song to make a specific guest (e.g. your mother, best friend) feel special.
  • A key piece of advice that wedding planners give about choosing wedding music is to plan out an outline for your wedding, as if it is going to be a movie. This means you need to know which key moments will require specific music (e.g. walking down the aisle, father/daughter dance, the bouquet and garter toss), and which moments don’t need more than background music (e.g. during the reception meal).
  • Always be sure to give clear instructions to your band, DJ, or whoever else is responsible for your wedding music. Both of you need to know what music is being played at what time during your wedding day.
To simplify the process of choosing the perfect soundtrack, your official Wedding Stress Relief Guide has done some more research for you and added 2 of the most popular wedding song websites with a brief description of each below. You might also consider looking at these websites to select music to go with your wedding video.
www.ourweddingsongs.com
  This is a cool site with neat graphics. It is easy to navigate and it gives a detailed description of each different style of song available for each part of your wedding. There appears to be a good range of songs to choose from and they go from oldies to more recent hits. With each song, lyrics are included, to make sure that the wording is completely appropriate for the grannies and the children.

This site is especially good because it offers ratings (out of 10) for each song displayed within the categories. These ratings are based on what people have put in by voting. You’ll find this especially useful because this will give you an idea about which songs are most popular as weddings songs, so you can go with tradition or set yourself apart.
www.weddingmusiccentral.com
  The wedding music library found on this site is amazing. There are a lot of popular wedding songs and many suggestions within each category. Fortunately and unfortunately, some of the songs in the lists have samples you can listen to, including some of the popular tracks.  A super feature of this website is the CD listening rooms. It sets out recommended wedding CDs that you can click on and listen to songs from each CD. You can even click on links to purchase the CDs you like. Check out the article within this site called ‘How to avoid the 3 biggest mistakes most couples make with wedding music. It’s a must-read!